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Memorials are never easy; after all, goodbyes are hard, especially for those we love. But memorials provide an important opportunity for you to make peace with a few things. That can be something as minor as reminiscing over an old memory with a few friends, or it can be something far more difficult, like forgiving wrongs that have torn large rifts in your family for decades. Whatever the case may be, you need to be ready for what the day presents to you, and there are a few key attitudes you should walk into the memorial with that will help you be prepared.
Empathy For Everyone
Your pain is no doubt very real, raw and powerful. You should want others to know what you're feeling and make sure they hear your grievances. But it is also important to understand that many others at these memorials will have their own emotions attached to certain events, and their emotions are no less real to them than yours are to you. This can be tough to reconcile, especially in moments of intense grief, but it is so important for everyone's benefit that you behave.
No matter what the situation with family or friends is, the time to argue and shout over disagreements is not at a memorial. Memorials are for celebrating the life that was and for mourning the life that was lost. If you keep that front and centre in your mind, then the day will go well. If you allow yourself to be overcome by negative emotions (as it is easy to do) the day can very quickly descend into a nightmare for everyone. This will be one of the last formal events you have that is based around your dearly departed loved one, so even if you do have legitimate issues with other guests, keep them for another day that isn't so important to so many.
The whole point of memorials is to share with others how much the person who passed meant to you. This is a moment of catharsis for all your pent-up sorrow, anger, love, fear and whatever else you may be feeling. Letting it out helps everyone come to terms with what has happened and helps you all move on together and deal with the pain together. Having pent-up emotions inside of you is not a healthy way to approach life, and it is not a healthy way to approach memorials. You will be surprised at just how much better you feel after a memorial where you were real and opened up with others about what your loved one meant to you.
To learn more about memorials, contact a funeral home.Share
27 February 2020